Sunday, July 10, 2011

Giving her pain...

She is getting a little better about taking pain, but some days are better than others. I recently made a lighter and more stingy cane from an old fishing pole. It is the end piece that I removed the loops and tip from. I have to hit her with it pretty hard to make it hurt, but in doing so , it is hard to control the aim. I caught her hip today when it wrapped over her ass a bit. That spot stayed tender for quite awhile. I think I am going to go back to the thicker cane. I switched to the flogger after that happened. The funny thing is she asked me to switch to it, and I already had it in my hand.
When I was done flogging her, she was quite wet. She still doesn't like to talk about it, and won't tell me what she loves about it. She said that sometimes it pisses her off to be caned, and other times she just takes it. I commented that either way, she still gets wet. She acknowledged that it was the truth, but wouldn't elaborate on it. Too embarrassed still.
The problem today though was that she refused to do two things I wanted. Not even big things. I wanted to use the dildo on her while I used the vibe, and I wanted her to suck me a bit before I fucked her. Neither one would she do. It really pissed me off, but I let it go for now. There will be some sort of reckoning soon though.
That's it for now. I really need to work on the submission side of our relationship.



  1. It's important to not just be angry, but to talk it through with her. I am sexually submissive but there are still areas where trust may waver, and one needs reassurance. Communicate your needs and find out what she needs to submit to them.

  2. Yes Stormy is right, and mood can play a big part. Unfortunately we are complicated creatures....What may be right today is wrong tomorrow. Best wishes. Alice

  3. Yes you are definitely complicated creatures to be sure. I spoke to her today and told her how I was upset with her refusals. She apologized and promised to do better next time. That is all I can ask...

  4. William--I agree with the above comments, and also one day to the next we all have our moods. As Dominants, it is our job, and our job alone, to gently guide our woman to the place where we want to take her, but also to understand when the time is right. Good Lord, my patience gets tested sometimes, but when my lizard is getting ready for our 4th of July party, it's not the time for me to tell her "Don't order me what to do, always ask."

  5. Yeah, Tom. We aren't always perfect in our timing either....Yes, I said Dom's aren't perfect...Unbelievable huh.