Sorry for the downer of a post last night. I'm much better today after getting a little "pep talk" from a friend last night. I'm going to just work on doing some subtle dominant things. Working them into our daily life instead of waiting for My slut to give me a decision. Maybe she is feeling under pressure to voice her decision, and if I just go as if she made her declaration, I think things will be fine. I will always respect her limits of course, but if I just work as if she has submitted, she may realize after awhile that no decision need be made. We will already be living a D/s lifestyle. She has already stated many times that she will submit to me, but maybe actually saying the words are too intimidating for her. I will treat her lovingly as my sub, and I will act as her Dom to show her how it will be. That it isn't as scary as she thinks it will be.
My hunger is still there in a very intense way, but maybe I can sate it by just taking her in hand and controlling her in a non-threatening way. Have her be submissive in a way that doesn't frighten her. I think things will work out just fine for us.
Thank you for pointing out some things for me friend. Your insight is very welcome.